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As they say in ‘Meet The Parents’ – you’re not in the “circle of trust”.the relationship’, it’s a hook up (read: booty call) and hanging out.If you’re afraid to broach the subject of seeing them and you’ve been dating for several weeks or months and you’re feeling committed to them, this is a red flag that needs to be addressed.One of the key components that distinguishes a bonafide, mutually fulfilling, healthy, loving relationship from being a casual/booty call/passing time situation or even a friendship is intimacy. You want to grow on all levels from dating into a relationship?
If you can’t, or you fear what will happen if you will, you’ve got problems.For those of us that live in Lala Land and would rather have a semblance of a ‘relationship’ on some terms rather than no terms, all this tippy-tapping of messages convinces us that they’re interested; it’s just that some obstacle is preventing them from getting in touch via traditional means or they’re ‘shy’ or ‘busy’ or that it’s the ‘new’ way of doing relationships. Genuine interaction, courtesy, respect, care, trust, intimacy – these things are not dead or old. The fact that someone would ever put you in the position of not knowing when you might hear from them next, or having your calls avoided, or them disappearing and then texting trying to pick up where they left off, or any other completely shady behavior, is indicative of an interaction without basic respect.Yes we may have some extra communication options, but people only claim it’s the new way of doing things to legitimize crappy behavior. The reality is this: Relationships require effort, connection, and intimacy as well as love, care, trust, and respect, and so the way of ‘olden times’ is actually exactly as it is .If they’re way of telling you they miss you, checking in on you, or even saying they want to get back together with you is via text, email etc and they’re not picking up the phone or coming to see you, they’re incredibly lazy.If they’re reluctant to move away from texts and emails into regular phone calls and seeing one another, they’re hedging their bets, checking out other options, or reluctant to give you the impression that you’re a priority or that you’re in a relationship.